Find Your Love Again. 5 Ways to Recover Your Relationship

If your loved one were lost in the woods, you wouldn’t hesitate to call for help. Marriage counseling can help you recover your relationship.

Learn to Reverse Direction, Receive Guidance, and Recover Your Relationship

Do you ever wonder, “What happened to the good stuff?”

The shared laughter. The romantic high. The passionate spark.

What happened to the joy of loving and being in love?

Marriage was supposed to keep your love secure – not bury it somewhere beneath the routines and responsibilities of your everyday lives. Not lose it amid years of hurt feelings, disappointment, or isolation.

So, what now? Should you just give up and let it go?

Wait! All is not lost.

Don’t do any thing rash. It’s not over.

You can recover. You can find that love again.

There is a path back to passion and contentment.

It’s time to change direction.                   

There are specific ways to recover romantic love.

There are clear markers along that path to a happy marriage.

All you need is a guide.

Let a marriage counselor help you get back on course.

Follow the counseling “breadcrumbs.”

A marriage counselor is equipped with reassuring advice, expertise, and recommendations designed to guide you through this dark place in your marriage. Piece by piece, like pursuing a trail of breadcrumbs, you’ll follow a new path toward a better marriage and happier home:

Breadcrumb #1: Acknowledge the situation. Agreement to marriage counseling signals investment and commitment.

If your loved one were lost in the woods, you wouldn’t hesitate to call for help. You’d organize a search team. You’d commit to do everything you could. You would not give up. Your marriage is no less important. Lost love needs a recovery team. You, your partner, and your counselor must get to work. Now.

Breadcrumb #2: Adjust your thinking. Counseling encourages shifts in perspective and a willingness to move forward.

Your counselor can help you look at the bigger picture, ask questions, and objectively point out the positive. Why do want to save your relationship? What values still connect you? How does your best marriage look?

Breadcrumb #3: Talk about what matters. Counseling fosters emotional support in a safe, neutral environment.

When you feel lost or lose something important, you feel a whole range of emotions. You may feel sadness, insecurity, anger, hopelessness, or resentment.

Counseling encourages safe, productive expression of those feelings. You’ll be able to identify and share your most important emotional needs. You’ll learn how to best nurture the emotional needs of your spouse.

Breadcrumb #4: Foster new relationship skills. Counseling helps identify communication patterns and obstacles that keep you going in circles.

Does every fight feel like a replay of the last? Or are you constantly retreating instead, barely talking to each other at all? Rarely touching? Scarcely smiling?

A counselor can help you dissect what’s happening. Do you need new communication skills to help you resolve conflict and minimize relationship damage? Are the past habits of your parents influencing your marriage today? Do either of you say or do things that consistently wreck loving feelings between you?

Counseling digs deeper, beneath the surface of your interactions, to help you disagree respectfully and problem-solve lovingly.

Breadcrumb #5: Maintain your progress. Counseling can be proactive. Engage your counselor for useful feedback and regular follow-up to help keep you on track and support your marriage goals.

When you and your partner are on the right path, holding hands again, and sharing the journey, there will still be obstacles that arise. Your counselor can redirect you when necessary, remind you of your new communication skills, and help you manage your emotions, one step at a time.

Now, gather your search team.

Get back on the marriage trail.

Follow the breadcrumbs back to love.

Go after the good stuff.

Call me at 303-415-3755 to schedule a free consultation. Or send me a message at my contact page. Afternoon and evening appointments are available for couples.